Successful Parentingby lois ()
From Matthew Kelly's, Building Better Families
Life is about relationships, and parenting is about preparing children for life. In its very best form, successful parenting is a school of virtue. It is the quality we should be looking for in our children. Are they kind, patient, honest, just temperate, courageous, loving, humble, thoughtful, gentle, compassionate, persevering?
You have no direct control over what your children do, but you do have control over what you do. This is where we should place our focus. What we do has more influence upon our children that anything we say or any use of parental authority. And virtue is the pinnacle of human action and achievement. Successful parenting can be measured one day at a time by asking, "Today, was I kind, patient, honest, just, temperate, courageous, loving, humble, thoughtful, gentle compassionate, persevering?"
Successful parenting in the twenty-first century requires determined effort, strength of will and clarity of purpose. In a word, character,. And virtues are the building blocks of character. You cannot move a brick wall with a squirt gun. the strength of the culture that our children find themselves immersed in every day is monumental, If we want them to be able to defend and celebrate the best-version-of-themselves, we need to do everything within our power to equip them with virtue and character, and the best way to do that is to model these things ourselves.
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